Eli's Eyes

It's scary to think that something is not quiet right with one of your children. Thomas was in the NICU for 11 days after being born 6 weeks early. God once miraculously healed Lily of Meningitis, and now, Elisha needs surgery.

Bea, I, and many others have noted how cross-eyed Eli is. He is 5 months old now and his right eye tends to settle right up against his nose, while his left eye is tracking straight or off looking at something else in the room.

My sister, who also had a lazy eye when she was young, and currently has a son with a lazy eye, said, "Hey little brother, you need to get Eli's eyes checked out. They are a little too crossed." We didn't really pursue it initially because both Thomas and Lily had googly eyes that passed with age. A few weeks later Bea took Eli in to have a rash looked at when the Dr. noticed how his eyes were tracking differently. (They sometimes remind us of those plastic eyes that wobble all over everywhere.) She says they are "way too googly." It noticeably concerned her.

So, she made the arrangements for Eli to go see an ophthalmologist. I managed to arrange for some time off of work, and off we go.

The nurse that first examined Eli was wonderful. She had definitely worked with kids before. She was able to keep Eli's attention, and get all her initial testing done fairly quickly. She also worked well with Lily and Thomas in the room.




Then the Dr. came in and did several more tests (pictures below). After some discussion, the Dr. did confirm that Eli is cross-eyed, and that it is pretty severe. Ultimately, he recommend surgery to reposition muscles on his eyes. The surgery is more successful when the vision in both eyes is even. Of course the vision in his left eye is stronger. So in the interim, we will be using a patch about 3 hours a day to try to get the eyes to equalize for the next 2 months. In February we will go back to have his vision reevaluated and to see if the disparity between his eyes has improved. Surgery will probably be scheduled that day. It is possible but highly unlikely that patching alone will cause improvement enough for the surgery to be unnecessary.

We have been patching for a couple of days now, and Eli seems to be dealing with it well. He is starting to look at things more with both eyes, instead of just with the one.

Lumber Jack Family

Last week during some heavy winds, a mostly dead tree in my in-laws yard was blown down. A couple of months ago, I got a new electric chain saw. Fallen tree, Chainsaw... What better combination....

So, I start out triming limbs off and making my way towards the trunk. After a couple of hours, I have things mostly cleared up, except the main trunk and a couple of large branches. Thomas always wants to help with my tools, so I figure these logs are good, thick, and stable. It should be safe for Thomas to help, and learn how to use another tool.

First order of business, some talks about power tools safety. Note: Thomas has his ear and eye protection on. He was very attentive to the instructions, and I was there with him every step of the way.

He looks like an old pro now. He did a great job cutting carefully. He was safely able to make a couple of cuts, then he wanted to go play some more. Something about being at Nanny and Granddaddy's house that he wants to play as much as possible.


Well, Thomas wasn't the only one who wanted to get into the act.






Ggggrrrrrrrr!!!!


Bea decided she wanted to use the saw too. So, another safety lecture, a few helpful tips, and off she goes.





She made a couple of cuts as well. She too found a reason not to make any more cuts....




She got saw dust in her shoes... My wife, the girly girl :)


It was a fun time had by all. In the end we got most of the tree broken down and stacked. And, the yard was mostly cleaner than we found it. There was also lots of family fun. And that's the most important part.

BTW, does anybody need any tree work done.... I happen to know a crew.... :D

Beautiful Minds

My husband is brilliant. Plain and simple. He can have entire conversations in nothing but acronyms and numbers. He can tie a hundred different knots. He has an uncommon amount of common sense. He can tell which spiders are poisonous and which aren't but he kills them all for me. He is just awesome. He astounds me sometimes with what his mind produces.

Which is why this quote is so funny......

Tonight we were driving home trying to be cryptic with our conversation so we could get surprise plans past Thomas because spelling doesn't work anymore. I told Thad we were going to have to develop hand signals or facial expressions or something.

His reply?:

"Yep. I'm thinking we should go to the Tennessee School for the Blind to learn sign language."

It doesn't get any better than that! My near-genius husband gets the prize for quote of the year!

However, I'm pretty sure I have the second best quote locked in with this:

I was getting ready to pump breast milk for Elisha while Thad was making dinner. I don't like when he has to do one of my jobs because I can't so I say this:

"Sweetie, I can finish dinner if you want to do the pumping."

This just goes to show that no matter how intelligent people are they can still suffer from flatus of the cerebellum!

I'm Addicted

My wonderful, intelligent, logical, analytical, handsome husband enjoys Sudoku. One night as I was reading in bed and he was working a puzzle I asked how they work. I had no idea what I was getting myself into! Up to this point I had not even tried one or had the desire to try one. He explained them to me and the rest is history.

I now do one online every time I log on. They are addicting. I swipe his Sudoku book when he's not using it. I do the one in the back of the TV Guide and Sunday newspaper. I am hopelessly addicted with no hope of recovery.

For those who don't know Sudoku is basically a logic puzzle that uses the process of elimination to fill in a 9x9 grid with numbers or letters. I've even found them that use symbols. They are enjoyable and thoroughly frustrating and infuriating at the same time! They make me crazy. Yet I can't avoid them.

So now that I am hooked, I'm doing my best to get everyone else addicted, too! Check out this website or this website or the side bar for a puzzle!

Tennessee State Fair - A Late Update

We had great fun this year at the State Fair. It was held in the first half of September but I'm just now finding time to update everyone.

The fair had all the usual trappings (rides, overpriced food and drinks, rigged games, etc) and the traditional agricultural exhibits which is what we enjoyed. We don't do the rides for obvious safety reasons. We limit games to one per child. As for the food, only because we have too!

At any rate, we prefer the traditional in almost all things. The fair is no exception. Once you get past all the flashy, shiny moneypits there is a great deal of education and fun to be had. We visited the veggie exhibits and saw gigantic pumpkins and a couple of 200-lb watermelons! There were beautiful specimens of vegetables, fruits, canning, and crops all around. The kids asked questions and were engaged in one thing after another. The dairy association had a booth that was manned by Purity and Mayfield with free chocolate milk and ice cream! That was a big hit with Thomas and Lily, not to mention Daddy and Mommy!

We visited an exhibit called Tiny Acres Farm. It was an interactive exhibit that taught farming from harvest to market. Thomas and Lily had great fun!

Thomas' plan for getting his milk to market was to drive his tractor right up to the cow, milk her into the trailer, and head to market!

Thomas was careful to walk among his crops!

Lily wanted to ride the calf.

She also wanted to plant her eggs instead of digging potatoes.

Eli and Momma with the Tiny Acres cow.

The animal barns were a hit, too! Chicken, ducks, geese, rabbits, mules, hogs, cattle! Every barn was fascinating and exciting. And stinky!

Petting the mules was a new experience. It was relaxing until my allergies kicked in!

The allergies were a nice problem to have when we got to the hog barn. I couldn't smell a thing!

We also checked on my entries into the fair. I entered 2 photographs, a framed cross-stitch project, and a pie. It was the same pie I took to the National Pie Championship last April. I didn't place with either of my photographs which was alright because my competittion was stiff! There are many wonderful amateur photogs in Tennessee.

I got an Honorable Mention for my cross-stitch project. The picture is blurry but it is a large version of the poem "Footprints" surrounded by shells, seaweed, waves, and footprints.

As you can see, my big win was with my pie! I baked the best fruit pie in the state! I got first place with my "Delightful 'Pear'-ings Pie." I was astounded. I had to double check the results sheet more than once.

After the National Pie Championship in April I said that I would give out my pie recipe should anyone want it. If you do want it, you can comment on this blog or email me. I only ask that you keep it for personal use.

Though the prize was only $8 which covered all of my entry fees, just participating was grand, indeed. I highly recommend participating in your county or state fair. I am already thinking about what projects I'll do, what pies I'll make. Will I do other baked goods? Its up for consideration. And everything I see gets evaluated for photograph potential!

At the end of the night we had an overwhelming and fulfilling time. Partly because of the animals and exhibits, partly because we spent a day as a family but also because we helped to keep alive the traditional of the fair.

This is what we found when we were getting out of the car that night:

How do they sleep in those positions?

Because he is a Socialist

I normally don't post anything political on this blog. Today I am because I want this to reach the most people possible.


This election is so very important. As a nation we are turning from our roots toward massive socialism which has never worked in the history of the world.


I am voting for the McCain/Palin ticket. Not necessarily because I agree with everything John McCain says but because I wholeheartedly disagree with everything Barack Obama says. He is a socialist to the core of his being. Most of his views fly in the face of my faith which is where I base my votes. I vote my values not my party. I am more dedicated to furthering God's plan than I am to the GOP.


*I do not agree with Obama's mission to redistribute the wealth of the rich. I think people should work, and those that do should not be stolen from for those that do not. Bill gates should get to keep his money instead of sending it to someone who chooses not to better himself.


*I believe abortion is murder in any and all situations. Barack Obama wanted to keep the horrific, barbaric practice of partial birth abortion LEGAL!


*I believe babies born as a result of a failed abortion should be given immediate life-saving medical attention. Barack Obama does not. He voted against the Born Alive Infants Protection Act. See Here.


*I believe that I have the right to keep and bear arms. Barack Obama thinks that as a law abiding citizen I should be restricted while criminals aren't going to the local gun store for their weapons. See Here.


*I am in favor of and fully support the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. There were actually weapons of mass destruction in Iraq. Saddam Hussein repeatedly used them on his own people. They were moved to Syria. See Here. And Here.


*I believe small business is the driving force in America's economy and the only thing that can turn it around. Barack Obama does not support small business issues the way he should. He was invited to the NFIB Small Business Summit as was John McCain. Only McCain attended. Thad works for the National Federation of Independent Business, an organization of small business members who vote on what is important to their business. NFIB is the most effective lobby organization in the country. They are the voice of small business. Here is a link of candidate comparison on small business issues.


*I want to drill for oil here not take OPEC handouts and accept their dolling out to us to increase our costs. Obama is against domestic drilling.


*I am absolutely opposed, to a degree I can barely express, to homosexual "marriage." I support a constitutional amendment to define marriage as between 1 man and 1 woman.


*I am a Christian. This is a Christian nation based on Judeo-Christian beliefs and values. Obama doesn't believe that. He even thinks that evolution does not conflict with the Bible.


So as you see, I am thoroughly opposed to an Obama administration. It would be the edge of a very slippery slope toward full-blown socialism which can only lead to communism. I want to live in America. The real America, rooted in the Constitution. If I wanted to live in a socialist nation I would move to Europe where there are many from which to choose. Many whose citizen's can't protect themselves, abortion is rampant and gas is $8 - $10/gallon to pay for socialized health care.

Again, socialism has never worked in the history of the world. Its not good for anyone but those in power. The average citizen gets the short end of the stick.

I hope you will take the time to research Obama's true beliefs and vote your values not just your party. Faith and values are far more important than whether you are an elephant or a donkey, red state or blue state, Republican or Democrat.

Update From Bea's Earlier Video

I hadn't seen the video Bea posted before, but when I did, I had to figure out who it was. So, I visited the site where she found the video. Figured out who the people where, and googled their name. (Yes, I know I am a Geek. That's what I get paid for...) Their names are Dick and Rick Hoyt. They are Team Hoyt. They have completed in over 900 races, ridden a bicycle across America, and competed in the Boston Marathon for the past 27 years save 2 when one or the other was unable to compete.

Their story is amazing. I won't retell it all here, but you can read more at their website (www.teamhoyt.com). Dick is the father, and Rick is the son. Rick has Cerebral Palsy along with several other disabling conditions. Dick is a father determined to see his son included in everything, regardless of the person sacrifice required. What an amazing example of what our Father has sacrificed for us.

Today's Reading....

So I am trying to get back on the wagon with this goal. No guarantees other than my best efforts.

Here is a passage that touched me as we did Bible study this past week. Though this was the prayer that Solomon spoke at the consecration of the temple after its built there are points that apply to us today.

"Blessed be the LORD, that hath given rest unto his people Israel, according to all that he promised: there hath not failed one word of all his good promise, which he promised by the hand of Moses his servant. The LORD our God be with us, as he was with our fathers: let him not leave us, nor forsake us: That he may incline our hearts unto him, to walk in all his ways, and to keep his commandments, and his statutes, and his judgments, which he commanded our fathers. And let these my words, wherewith I have made supplication before the LORD, be nigh unto the LORD our God day and night, that he maintain the cause of his servant, and the cause of his people Israel at all times, as the matter shall require: That all the people of the earth may know that the LORD is God, and that there is none else. Let your heart therefore be perfect with the LORD our God, to walk in his statutes, and to keep his commandments, as at this day."
1 Kings 8:56-61


Continually Solomon speaks of walking in God's ways and keeping his statutes. If we strive to do that then God will honor that by keeping His promises to us.

Love HIM, seek HIM, honor HIM.

Love to all. Pray for me as I pray for you.

I Couldn't Do Anything but Cry

This is possibly one of the most powerful things I have ever seen. I sat at my computer ignoring everything else for 4 1/2 minutes with tears streaming down my face.

Please watch and listen ALL the way through.

I hope this touches you as it has me. Love to all!

Lily Says (3 Stories About Our Little Chatty Cathy)

1.

With Thomas now in 1st grade his lessons are becoming longer and more in depth. When we do his schooling at home Lily is always around. She absorbs everything around her and finds a way to repeat it or work it into a conversation.

Right now in science and history/geography/social studies we are learning about sounds and communication. She wants her own worksheets as Thomas does his. I was going over different types of communication with Thomas like talking, sign language, etc. Lily is coloring on her worksheet when she suddenly says, "Momma, I'm talking. I'm communicating!"

So amazing! She had picked up the entire lesson.

2.

*Warning: Toddler Potty Humor*

One of the ways we got Lily to stay on the potty while she was potty training was to read books to her. She would climb up and either Thad or I would sit on the floor and read to her. Her book of choice was usually Big Sister, Little Sister which gives cute little phrases on each page about the relationship between sisters. Its also in rhyme which makes it very easy to remember. We read it so many times that she memorized it. Eventually we began to ask her to "read" it to us while she is on the potty.

One day she was going great with her "reading" when she got to the page where Big Sister is a cheerleader. At just the right moment she started to go in the potty. She was exceedingly proud of herself so she announced it right on the tail end of reading the page. This was the result:

"Big Sister teaches me to yell and cheer, 'I'm pooping, Momma! I'm dropping one in!'"

I completely lost my composure, literally falling over laughing! There was no pause between the reading and her pronouncement. Running them together created quite a laugh for me. I had trouble later even relating the story to Thad. I couldn't stop laughing. Even now I got a chuckle as I typed.

I have no idea where, "I'm dropping one in" came from but, WOW, was it funny!

She is so very, very, very vocal its astounding. Every now and then she comes up with something too funny to keep to ourselves. Even if that something might be potty humor.

3.

Just now as I was typing this post Lily pointed to the travel section of the Sunday newspaper asking, "What's that, Momma?"

"It's a cruise ship."

"Noooo, it's a BOAT!"

It Rained in Nashville Yesterday....

....and all the crazies were out driving.

It seems to me that Nashville has a high number of people that want to test the efficacy of their auto insurance companies. They come out on rainy days and muck up all major thoroughfares in the city.

As a whole Nashville drivers are average. What qualifies me to say this? I have been to and through a great number of our United States. I have experienced more than one 65 mile per hour traffic jam in San Francisco. I have been on the Bay Bridge in San Fran at rush hour. Los Angeles is some sort of civil engineer revenge plot against society - a giant spider web of concrete and cars. I have navigated Daytona Beach and Orlando at Spring Break. I have nearly wet myself twice riding in a taxi cab in Mexico. We won't even talk about Jamaican driving habits, OY! Washington, D.C.? Again, lets not go there. A little closer to home there is the ever popular "Malfunction Junction" right down the middle of Knoxville.

So now you know that I have the credentials to go along with my assessment, here it is:

Nashvillians suffer from a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde disorder that emerges as the chance of precipitation rises. If water does actually fall from the sky - WHOA, NELLY! These people lose all manner of sense and basic skill and become all thumbs behind the wheel.

Its just our little mark on the world. Forget "Music City" just change our nickname to
"We have a wreck on I-65 Southbound at Trinity Lane."
Its not as catchy but it would most certainly be truth in advertising. Not to mention a nice warning for tourists.

I love you, Nashville! Have a great day and drive safely!

A Couple of New Adventures

In the past few weeks there have been 2 significant changes for me. I am truly excited about both.

Most of you know that Thomas takes home school tutorial classes in fine arts every Friday at Family Christian Academy. One of the classes offered to the middle and high school students is Creative Writing. The teacher from last year followed God's call to Europe and the space was vacant. In early summer I offered to tutor if a student needs a little extra help. (That's the joy of homeschooling, we share our talents with each other!) The administrator asked if I would consider teaching the class! Of course, I was thrilled to be asked but let her know that it probably wouldn't work since Lilianna and Elisha are home with me. She said she would pray about it, and I did, too. Weeks went by without a solution and nothing new from the administrator so I figured God's answer was no.

When I took Thomas on the first day of school, a Wednesday, the administrator approached me again. I started to explain the I had found no solution for see to Lilianna and Elisha. She cut me off halfway through my sentence with a gleeful, "Oh and I have someone to watch the babies here in the school while you teach!" I was so excited I got teary eyed. I had really wanted to teach this class and just as I had given up hope, God got me with a sneaky "yes." It got even better a week later when they asked me to teach Speech class also!

So that's New Adventure #1, I now teach middle and high school students Creative Writing and Speech on Fridays! Its amazing. I love the curriculum I chose and my students. The sitter is working out well. If the kids need me she just brings them to me. I even taught Speech a couple of weeks ago while holding Eli because he wanted to fall asleep on Mama.


New Adventure #2 is something I've done before but not in 9 1/2 years! I am now a consultant for The Pampered Chef. I am selling again. I thoroughly enjoy their products and their company. Everything is high quality and long-lasting. I have pieces that are 10 years old and work like the day I got them. If you are interested in hosting a Cooking Show in your home or just a catalog show please let me know! I love this new business, and I am excited to help you!

Our Family Celebration

September 6 was a very fun day! We took this day to mark our 10th anniversary, renew our wedding vows ans dedicate Elisha to God. We had a wonderful time. Here are some of the details:

As with our wedding, my dad presided over the vow renewal. He also did Elisha's dedication. Both were held outside under an arbor on the waterfront of Drake's Creek which is an offshoot of Old Hickory Lake. It was a beautiful day.

After that we went inside to continue our party. Thad and I danced our "next dance" to "Walking Her Home" by one of our favorite Christian artists, Mark Schultz. Our dance instructor, Dana from DanceQuest, LLC, choreographed a routine for us that was perfect for us and the song.

Dancing helped us work up an appetite which was taken care of with some FANTASTIC food from our venue, Latham's Lighthouse Events Center. Mr. Latham provided us with an amazing spread. We had tenderloin, chicken breast, corn with chipotle and garlic butters, green beans, crostini with three toppings including the best spinach and artichoke dip ever! We also had three cakes from The French Confection, golden butter, strawberry, and Jack Daniels double chocolate chip - all covered in dark chocolate ganache!

We played the music of our youth - a compilation of essential 80s and 90s music. All in all it was a fabulous day. Our centerpieces were adorned with lovely hot pink Gerbera daisies and carnations from Flower Express. We enjoyed the company of the friends and family that were able to be with us and missed those who weren't.

If you would like to see the photographs that our photographer, Jon Warren, you can click here to go to our Shutterfly album. Once there you can order the photos of your choice.

Kid Updates

Wow it seems like forever since I posted anything on either of my blogs. I know you all are wanting more kids updates so here is the latest.

Thomas is 5 and in 1st grade now! He is still doing 3 days at Family Christian Academy and 2 days at home. Fridays are "Fine Arts Fridays." He has art, Spanish, science fun, and music. He is doing well. He is very happy to be staying all day instead of leaving after lunch. He is reading very well though he doesn't want to sometimes. He prefers history and science to English and literature.

Lilianna has just turned 2. She has also just finished potty training. She loves her big girl clean, dry panties! She wakes up dry but still has an accident every couple of days. That's mostly because we can't get her to a potty quick enough. She can count to 14 and say her ABC's though she won't do either if you ask. You have to catch her in the act. She talks and talks and talks. Not like a baby but in full, clear sentences as part of a conversation! I'm with her all the time and even I'm amazed sometimes.

Elisha is growing wonderfully! He was 22 inches at birth and at 2 months he had grown to 24 1/2 inches! He almost has full control of his head and pushes up well when laying on his belly. Elisha was recently dedicated back to God at our Family Celebration on September 6. Did I mention that he sleeps through the night? WOOHOO!

Long Live the Shoppong Cart Surfers

Last week I was walking through the parking lot on my way into Aldi. Just then an older gentleman that I would describe as distinguished was coming out. He looked intellectual, structured, staid, and serious. He was pushing his cart with purpose toward his car not as if he were out on a leisurely Sunday shopping trip.

I smiled at him in greeting which he returned with a half grin. As he did this he placed one foot on the bottom bar of the cart, hopped up, and gave two swift pushes with the other foot. He surfed his cart past me with a wide grin that replaced the half one. His eyes were lit with a glee that spoke to me. He still enjoyed his life. Perhaps we all would if we surfed on our shopping carts more often.

*Please note that I am well aware of the dangers here. Sometimes we need to do things anyway! An adventure without a little danger is a poor remedy for the ordinary!

New Kid Pictures

These are just some great shots I took of the kids recently. Enjoy!

The Turnip Truck

Everyone who knows anything about me knows that I'm not one to just jump onto any bandwagon. That's why I have taken my time, researched, and debated about this one. I have read about it on several other blogs and took the time to visit myself with the family.

On Woodland Street in East Nashville there is a very unassuming building called The Turnip Truck. Its a natural market. They carry a lot of organic food, local produce, meats, cheeses, etc. We visited for the first time for their weekly Farmer's Market that runs from 4-7 pm on Wednesdays. I had read about this event in Nashville Parent magazine. Its a small market of about 20 vendors, including some clothing and body products, who are mostly organic. There was live music on the lines of a four-piece bluegrass band complete with banjo and standing bass. I believe the music changes every week. Though we didn't see it there is also supposed to be kids' entertainment.

I'll sidestep my opinion on the organic issue to say that I fully believe in supporting local farmers and farmers in general. The produce and meat are always fresher giving them a longer counter life because they didn't travel 3000 miles from the San Fernando Valley in a truck.

Since Elisha insisted on nursing while we were there I didn't get to go into the actual store. Thad and the two older kids did. They reported back to me on various prices, etc while I stayed in the car feeding the baby. All I got to experience personally was the outdoor market so these tips pretty much only apply to that.

A few cautions:

1. The prices are sometimes as much as 200% higher than grocery store prices on produce (green beans averaged $3/lb). The prices on "organic" meats is exponentially higher (what I would define as "crazy high" and unnecessarily so.) The cheeses were reasonable for boutique style farm fresh cheese.

2. If you political persuasion is central or anywhere near the right side of the aisle, you'll be in the minority by a long shot! Be prepared for the bumper stickers and t-shirts that bespeak the evils of capitalism while their owners gladly take your money for sometimes over-priced goods. Its up to you how many feathers you choose to ruffle.

3. Parking is limited. The lost probably holds 30-50 cars but there is plenty of street level parking.

4. Organic or not, always wash your produce! I know it sounds like a given that shouldn't have to be repeated but consider how many times you have to tell your kids to wash their hands after going to the bathroom.

5. Cash works best. I did see at least one vendor that took cards. Cash is also a great negotiating point. Don't be afraid to haggle. Be reasonable, though. Bringing in a harvest is hard work and they do deserve a fair wage. This only applies to the weekly market outdoors.

6. Shop each booth before choosing. Prices vary widely and some offer samples. Also, carefully examine all produce the same way you would at the grocery store. Check for bruising, worm holes, etc. Ripeness is usually not an issue since most things are picked no more than a couple of day before selling.

All in all, it was enjoyable and we got some great tasting food. My personal favorite: Delvin Farms Sugarshaw Melon. At $4.50 each these sweet, juicy melons win hands down over their sad grocery store cousins.

A Modern, Old-Fashioned Woman

The other day I discovered myself doing something that seemed both progressive and old-fashioned at the same time. It caused me to take a step back and look at who I had become since all those imaginations in high school and college. I was sitting in the recliner nursing Elisha with Thomas sitting in the chair next to me. I was showing him how to break beans for dinner. Lilianna was napping on the couch and all was well with the world.


It struck me that all those years ago (14 since graduation) I had seen myself in an entirely different manner. I was going to be an obstetrician. I had a passion for babies and birth. I still have that passion just channeled differently. God knew His plan for me. Thankfully, I didn't muck it up. Shortly that future faded from memory only to be replaced by imaginations of self-employment in public relations and business admin. Those imaginations, too, flitted out of my mind when I met Thad.


I was brought back to my first heart's desire: being a wife and mother. Not on the order of modern wives who spend their days finding convenience at any cost, spending too much money, pawning their children off on strangers, and treating their husbands like unruly pets. I wanted to be a wife of the Bible, a wife on the order of my mother and grandmother. A woman who thinks that children should be included in all we do, not shut away and amused with electronics.

I find myself doing those small things that my mother and grandmother did. I set Lily on the counter while I cook, talking with her, answering her questions, explaining what I'm doing. If I'm going to tackle a project I find a way for them to be involved not a way for them to not be underfoot. I can't recall a time when Mom or Granny told a child they couldn't help. I can't recall a time when either treated her husband with malice or contempt. (Sass, maybe, but only in jest.)

I want so much to be that woman who reflects the simple things in life. I also want to be a woman that takes advantage of technology to the fullest. I home school my children but I get so many of my materials from the Internet. I try to stay connected with family but I do it electronically.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that all those things that Mom and Granny did that I once thought foolish, all those things they tried to teach me but I ignored, all those things that I said I would never be, well, those are the valuable things in life. I wish I had listened. So now I spend my time watching carefully the things my mom does and the way she acts with my children, constantly taking mental notes. All in the hopes that I can continue to become a modern, old-fashioned woman.

God answered our prayers! Elisha is a big boy!

In my last update I mentioned that Elisha's next stepping stone was to regain some of the weight he had lost since birth. On Saturday, July 19, at one week old he had lost 1 pound. His pediatrician wanted him to gain some back quickly to make sure he is thriving. We had a follow-up the next Wednesday. In 4 days he had gained back 9 ounces of the pound. The doctor was thrilled and gave him a clean bill of health! Praise God!

Thanks to all for your prayers!

Here is picture of Master Elisha resting comfortably in his Moses basket.

More on Elisha

I'm sure you've been wondering why there have been no new posts since Elisha was born. We haven't really been home much. Last Wednesday, the 16th, we took Elisha for follow-up visit with his pediatrician because his bilirubin was slightly high. They wanted to recheck it and make sure he wasn't getting too jaundiced. It was 10.5 on Monday when he and I were discharged. On Wednesday it was 26! That's dangerously high and far to close to needing a blood transfusion. That night, at 4 days old, he was admitted to Vanderbilt Children's for treatment which includes phototherapy and IV fluids. Thanks be to God that he didn't need a blood transfusion or anything more than routine therapy. He left Vanderbilt on Friday afternoon with a bilirubin level of 14. Saturday morning we followed up again with the pediatrician and his level was 11, officially out of the woods where jaundice is concerned. Now they just want him to gain some weight. He lost a pound by 1 week old. Please keep us all in your prayers. We have another pediatrician visit this coming week.

In the meantime, here are some more pictures of Elisha:

This should answer the question, "Who does he look like?"

Yep, definately Wilson genes. Add a beard and Elisha is a miniature version of Granddaddy.

What a face! This one is for you Grandma!

A quick nap together while I got a much needed shower! Elisha might not have his Daddy's face but he does have the hairline! Don't fuss at me. Thad said it first!

Just your average, everyday picture of 3 miracles in one place! Praise the Lord for His great provision!

Welcome to the World, Elisha Lewis Xavier Scalf

Arriving at 1:45 am, Saturday July 12th, was our third child, and second son. His name is Elisha Lewis Xavier Scalf. Why the name? Elisha, because he received a double portion. Lewis, my Great Grandmother's maiden name. Xavier, We just thought the name was cool. So, Welcome to the world Eli.

Weight: 9lbs 15.7 ounces ( Yes, that is a 10 pound baby)

Length: Currently unknown.

Child Birth: Natural (No medications at all!! Praise God for His wonderful provision!!)

Bea's Current Health: Well. She is having a sandwich and some Pretzels. She worked very hard for this.

Eli's Current Health: Struggling a bit. He took a big gulp of Amniotic Fluid with his first breath, and he is working through that.

My Health: Tired, very tired.

Thomas and Chelsea (My niece) were a huge help!!. Thomas got to help me cut the cord. He thought that was just great. He got what he prayed for. A baby brother. God always answers prayers!

Well, it is close to time to go to sleep, so good night for now. More on Elisha in the later morning hours.

A Great Blog

I was reading my Woman's Day magazine today (August 1, 2008 issue) and found a GREAT resource for saving on practically everything but especially groceries.

The article, Secrets of Extreme Grocery Shoppers, outlines more than 20 tactics for saving on groceries. Several websites are listed but the one I visited that just blew me away was:

http://thecentsiblesawyer.blogspot.com/

As soon as I figure out how to add her button to my page it will be permanently on the page. This will have to do for now.

Enjoy the savings!

OY! Phonics.....

One of the biggest milestones for any parent is when your child begins to read. This is especially true for a homeschooling parent because the investment is so much greater. Thomas just graduated kindergarten with a great desire to read. Anything. Unfortunately this adventuresome boy wants to read billboards, business signs, bumper stickers, etc.

This is where the "OY!" comes in. Living in large city offers countless signs to read. So we're driving down the road one day and my little phonics boy starts sounding out the one sign I wish he wouldn't. Its on our way home (and to virtually anywhere else we go) so I knew it would happen some day. I was just hoping he wouldn't notice that one until he was 25.

So he's in the back seat sounding things out, "e-x-x-o-n, EXXON! I got that one, momma! B-B-Bur-ger-k-ing! I'm a great reader, momma!"

"Yes, you are, my boy!"

"J-j-jen-na-s, Jenna's, t-o-y, toy, box. Momma, can we go to Jenna's Toy Box someday?"

Thankfully, I didn't wreck the truck but my recovery was less than graceful. "Nope, we can't ever go there."

"Why? They have toys there. I need more toys."

Quick! Think! "No, you have plenty of toys. You don't need anymore."

"But I don't have any from there. We could just go look. We don't have to buy anything. Please, momma!"

Ok, time to bite the bullet. "Sweet boy, that's not really a toy store."

"Then why did they name it that?"

"Because they are trying to trick people. They sell very inappropriate things there. Its not a store for children. Its not a store for nice adults either."

Fortunately, that was the end of that. UNfortunately, the next sign he asked me about was a Hooter's Billboard! Its sad that we can't drive down the road without having to explain how much inappropriate and shameful activity there is in the world. I can't imagine anything worse than those two signs but I'm sure he'll find them someday.

Backyard Camping 101

Monday night, I mentioned to Thomas that since the weather was warmer, it was probably time to go for a camp out in the backyard. As many of you remember, we have close to 1 acre, and some nice woods. Since I enjoy the outdoors so much, I want to foster that love in my children. So, without fail, Thomas asked every night if we could camp out that night. I told him it would have to be Friday night. Friday afternoon, I get home, and the first thing Thomas says is, "Daddy, can we put the tent up?" That had been my plan anyway.

So, downstairs we trudge to equip ourselves for a night of camping in the backyard. Thomas dutifully assisted as we setup the tent, gather firewood, and setup our chairs for an evening by the fire pit. We returned inside just in time for dinner. Afterward, we went out back to start our fire, and roast marshmallows. Lily decided they were "muck muscles". I laughed most heartily.

I have to leave for tests tonight. More later...

Today's Reading....

Inspired by the wildfires in Northern California:

"That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ:" 1 Peter 1:7

"I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see." Revelation 3:18

I saw a picture on an Internet news outlet of a fire captain surveying the damage left by the wildfires in Big Sur in Northern California. He looked perplexed as if nothing he had ever seen compared to this swath of destruction that fire had left. I think we are the same when we come through a trial by fire. What we learn in our walk with God is much the same as what happens in creation when fire strikes.

We see only the immediate. The destruction of homes, lost lives, and pain beyond our understanding. Fortunately, God sees from every side of an event. He knew those fires would happen. He also knows that good can come from them. Just as our personal trials by fire are excruciating and devastating there is always good on the other side. He knows. He loves us. He holds us.

We become refined by fire. Our actions and reactions become more like His. In creation, some very beautiful and awe-inspiring trees would never grow were it not for forest fires. Check these out:

These men are standing at the base of 1 tree!

Here a church group is having service on 1 fallen tree.

Each of these pictures are of the Giant Sequoia Tree. They are native to Northern California. What makes them remarkable other than being the oldest living trees and the largest trees is that their acorns require "special treatment" to take root. A sequoia acorn will not root and grown unless it has been burnt. They require trial by fire to reach their fantastic full potential. Amazing isn't it? Here's another bit of information: any plant has as much structure below the ground as above! Now apply that to these spectacular trees that routinely grow hundreds of feet in the air even to the obscuring of the sky from the viewer below.

Now thank God for the fires in your life. He will bring you through it and you will be better off in the end.

Love to all!

A Disturbing Idea

Thomas had a dental appointment today with a new dentist. We left the last dentist after discovering some disconcerting information about their practice and about a policy that I find positively disturbing. Today, we find out (after having gotten different information over the phone) that the new dentist has the same policy. Apparently most dentists have this policy and parents don't seem to mind. I am speaking of their idea that at 5 (and sometimes younger) a child should go through his appointment with the dentist without his parent present.

They tried valiantly to convince me that it was in Thomas' best interest to be allowed to go behind closed doors with virtual strangers for a minimum of 30 minutes while I just sit back and read a magazine. They suggested that it instilled independence and confidence. All the other parents were doing it. How can he trust the dentist if I don't?

My question is this: If something happens, how can he trust me again? It isn't in their job description to determine that other people's children are ready for something like that. They are not accountable for the well being of those children. He is my responsibility. I claim rights to him by virtue of him coming out of my body! God has chosen me to guard and tend him. I can't imagine shirking that duty because of their arbitrary policy.

I would venture a guess that many of you out there are saying, "what's the big deal? Its just the dentist." The big deal is that if we change the titles of those involved it becomes a potentially dangerous situation that no decent parent would ever consider. Imagine this:

A random person says: you should leave your 5 year old with me, behind closed doors and without accountability. And, by the way, I have enough chemicals behind those doors to incapacitate your child and blur their memory so you will never know what I've done.

Sounds scary, right? Somehow, though, when that random person is wearing brightly colored scrubs and has some initials behind their name they move from the realm of suspicion to acceptability. Why? Do we not hear almost daily about the trusted soccer coach, teacher, or doctor who turns out to be the town pedophile? Would you send your child into the pediatrician alone? Nope. You would insist on being there. You would insist that to leave them alone would be irresponsible. Yet and still doing that at the dentist office is ok?

Needless to say, we are now searching for another dentist. We have a lead on a "family dentist" who specializing in treating the whole family. This time I intend to make myself and my position clear up front. If you happen to know a good dentist who doesn't try to usurp the rights of parents, please let me know.

Today's Reading....

Just something that occurred to me earlier...

"Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. " Hebrews 12:2

Of the four million times I have heard this verse in my life never has it had the clarity that it did today.

Of course, Jesus is the author and finisher of our faith. If it doesn't begin and end with Him and all He says, then what is it? If our faith is not wholly rooted in Jesus, His redemptive work, His creation, etc. then what is it? Something of our own making. When we find ourselves there, we ought to look toward Him for renewal and uplift of our faith.

Love to all! Goodnight!

An Amazing God Moment

This hibiscus bloom opened this morning. While that is an amazing God moment in and of itself that wasn't what touched me so profoundly this morning.

In the quiet of the morning with the TV off, Lily still in bed and Thomas asleep on the couch because he had gotten up too early, the only sounds I could hear were the occasional car driving by and the rooster next door crowing. In a moment when it seemed that traffic had stopped, the rooster took a breath, and even the refrigerator seemed to quite its hum, I heard a gentle crackling sound behind me.

I found it odd since the only thing behind me was a tree. Perhaps a branch was giving way. I looked over my shoulder and I noticed the single bloom at the top of the tree that had been tightly closed when I got up this morning was open. I took a minute before it dawned on me that I had actually HEARD a flower bloom!

Never before in my life had I considered that the tightly closed petals might actually make a sound when they pulled apart to show their full glory. It was spectacular. It was beautiful. It was slightly haunting. Most of all it was a moment that I felt connected to God in a new and exciting way. I had a new understanding of Him and His creation. I think this one will stick with me for a long time.

Thank you, God, for this wonderful moment and all of your creation!

Today's Reading....

You have probably noticed that I have been sporadic at best at posting to the blogs. Unfortunately I don't see that changing in the near future. These last few weeks of pregnancy are taking their toll on my body. With my other two pregnancies I was very active right up to delivery. With this one I had a bout of sciatica in early April that seemed to linger. Now hip, leg, and pelvic movement are painful and restricted. This pain makes it incredibly difficult to be in one position for an extended period of time, particularly sitting in the desk chair.

All that to get to this: I have chosen a scripture for my own uplift and encouragement:

"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble." Psalm 46:1

"Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety." 1 Timothy 2:15

"I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Philippians 4:12-13

I know that you all keep us in your prayers, and we definitely appreciate them. Now more than ever, though, I could use some specific prayer. Please pray for strength in my body and mind, encouragement for my spirit, the ability to continue to care for my family, a quick, pain-free, uncomplicated delivery, and perfect health for our newest edition to the Scalf clan.

For those that scoff at the "pain-free delivery" idea. Its very possible if we apply our faith to God's Word. The full concept is explained in a book that I love Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize which can be purchased here or here.

Basically, with faith, a woman stands on all that God has promised including those regarding the Hebrew women in birth, our healing being bought by Christ's death on the cross, etc. It is a fantastic read even if you aren't pregnant. it is particularly helpful if you are having problems conceiving. Its going to become my standard gift to moms-to-be and those wanting to be moms.

Thanks again for your prayers. Please feel free to comment with any other scriptures that you feel might be of encouragement to us right now.

Love to all!

Some Older Pictures that I Ran Across Recently....

SeaWorld San Diego, May 2006, 5 months pregnant with Lilianna. Thomas thought the Clydesdales were great.

Thomas at 18 months. He opened and played in a 5 lb bag of polyfill for stuffing pillows, etc. This is when I caught him. He must have had a great time. Check out his hair!

Speaking of hair....This was in the "early growing stages" before Thad cut it off. I'm not sure what was up with my hair.

Thad put hair gel on him before he went to bed. This was the next morning.

Sleeping Lily about 3 months old.

Today's Reading....

Tonight I just wanted to share two videos I found on YouTube. I have just recently gotten into searching YouTube. What a fun site! (Just be careful what you search for.) Anyway, these are two of my favorite songs. They are truly uplifting to me.

Take a few minutes of your life to allow praise to flow freely. Step back from your everyday and put your hands in the air. Allow the tears or laughter or prayer. Whatever your heart has to give, let it be given. Don't be embarrassed if others can see you just know that God can see you. It pleases Him beyond our knowledge when we praise! Here are some scriptures to go with each:

#1: "God With Us" by MercyMe

"Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us" Matthew 1:2

"What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him?" Psalm 8:4

"Bless the LORD, O my soul: and all that is within me, bless his holy name." Psalm 103:1





#2 "You Reign" by MercyMe

"And when he was come nigh, even now at the descent of the mount of Olives, the whole multitude of the disciples began to rejoice and praise God with a loud voice for all the mighty works that they had seen; Saying, Blessed be the King that cometh in the name of the Lord: peace in heaven, and glory in the highest. And some of the Pharisees from among the multitude said unto him, Master, rebuke thy disciples. And he answered and said unto them, I tell you that, if these should hold their peace, the stones would immediately cry out." Luke 19:37-40

"Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name: That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth; And that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. " Philippians 2:9-11

"Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God." Hebrews 12:2




I can't possibly add anything. I hope your were impacted. Love to all, Goodnight!

Today's Reading....

More from Proverbs:

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender." Proverbs 22:6-7

We often hear these verses separately. Standing alone they are powerful and instructive and vital. But OH the power they have when combined!

When we define fiscal responsibility as a component of training our children, it takes on a whole new light. How many of us believe that a car payment for the rest of our lives is inevitable? How many of us save as much as we could instead of buying the next biggest, flashiest thing? How many of us live on less than we make?

How would the "mortgage crisis" be different if our parents had taught us that borrowing money is dangerous? Truth be told, most of our parents shied away from debt and most of our grandparents thought it abhorrent to borrow money from anyone. We, as a generation, have succumbed to marketing and the idea of having more.

This all goes back to our being spoiled, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We live in a world that continually says we are entitled to this or that thing for whatever lame reason we can think up. We don't live in a society that mirrors the Bible in that a person who does not work, does not eat. There is always someone there to pick up our slack. Not out of an inability to work but out of a lack of desire. Welfare is not the answer to poverty. Employment is.

Not teaching our children fiscal responsibility is the root of why we have people living in the projects with 50-inch HDTV's and driving Cadillac Escalades. Not teaching our children fiscal responsibility is why Japan saves an average of 18% of their income while the US saves an average of -2%. Yeah, negative. That means we are farther in debt than what we earn. If all of our mindsets were fixed on the understanding that every time we borrow we have entered into servant hood, we have made ourselves slaves to VISA, we would probably turn tail and run from the extra 10% off our shopping trip with a credit card application.

If we taught our children proper money management we would have no need of government assistance. We would have made generation upon generation of givers, people who want to help others as they help themselves. We would also have created people who were ashamed that they weren't providing for themselves and their families, people that understood that when you have no money the best place to go is to work not to the welfare office.

We need to train givers, savers, and workers. People who know that you can have an amazing, full life that doesn't include a payment book.

I am going to continue to seek God's wisdom on how to train my children to manage HIS money the best we can. I hope you will do the same.

Love to all, goodnight!

Pictures from Thad's Birthday

We are big believers in the homemade/handmade birthday gift.

The kids and I printed from the computer and colored a banner for Daddy!

These are their scary bowling faces. Intimidating, aren't they?

This is just funny. Thomas was so intense with his bowling. He also got second place in the final score ahead of me, my mom, and my dad!

Super-Pregnant Bowling Woman!

Her face explains the frustration we all felt.

Lily's favorite part was spinning in the chairs!

Finding a new use for the hand dryer.

A good time was had by all. its amazing how much fun can be had in rented shoes for next to nothing! Simple birthdays are great.